aregivers have one thing in common because they are taking care of someone else in need.
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to the Federal Government Source for Women’s Health Information, over
60% of the nation’s informal, or unpaid, caregivers are women and 13%
are 65 years and older. This became my new tribe. Along with an
increasing number of males who provide care, they are taking care of
approximately 44 million Americans.
As the range of care varies, so does the age and abilities of the caregivers. They could be:
The Goddess Within by Allison L. Williams Hill
Parents, baby boomers, wives, husbands, and single mothers experience stress. Add to that many caregivers work outside the home and may need to for financial reasons. Any of the following or a combination of ways stress is experienced can throw their lives out of balance because of the set of circumstances they face such as:
We all handle stress differently. Personally, I have been a caregiver for several years. My husband experienced a myriad of medical conditions beginning with sciatica and now, dementia and depression. My husband is not completely aware of what his happening to his body and his brain, that he can actually describe it. He knows that his ability to think and his command of speech are changing. He earned his doctoral degree about six years ago and struggles to sustain that level of critical thinking. His focus had always been to help others.
I would leave the house and use more than 8 hours each work day at a foreign government’s planning physical department experiencing stress in producing a study, for example, that we understood we had three months to complete, reduced to two weeks. I would work at home during early morning hours on a laptop next to my sleeping husband.
would make my husband’s lunch and leave it in the refrigerator for him
to have in the afternoon. Eventually, I returned home in the early
evening to find his lunch still in the refrigerator. “I forgot,” he’d
say. I’d remind him several times during the evening and at breakfast. I
returned from work to find his lunch in the refrigerator. Thereafter, I
drove home to give him his lunch. I drove back to work to consume mine
in front of the computer.
As time went on, I felt I would rather eat with him at home and make up the time at the end of the day. A friend of my husband, for whom I was designing a home, came to the office and asked how he was doing. I was telling him how things were progressing while searching for work on the computer and began to cry. I could not stop. I was fortunate that I was in an enclosed office. I strongly resented his asking. When I calmed down several minutes later after he’d gone, I realized how much I used that job as a substitute to block out what was happening at home. But I only traded one type of stress for another.
About a year and a half ago, I resigned to remain at home full time. After two weeks of being at home around my husband, watching all that he did, I felt I should have resigned sooner.
Signs that stress have become too much are when one experiences:
generally need to take care of themselves because they are serving two
people - husband, wife, sister, aunt, parent, grandparent, or child and
themselves. In another article on health and well-being, I offer
solutions that help caregivers gain strength in their lives.
To begin, ask yourself if you, or ask someone you trust if they recognize signs of stress in you. Be open to hear, receive and be kind to yourself as you resolve to address your needs. It will take time for you to lovingly attend to the one in your care and to consciously attend to you.
The above meditation mandala will be available soon.
Fur Baby Lounge
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Gifts from Spirit Discernment
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Gifts from Spirit blank note cards coming soon!
Doesn't the dormouse in the heather appear to be smiling? I found out from the Comedy Wild Life Photography Awards web site that Mr. Andrea Zampatti is the photographer. Please visit his website for more fascinating images that he was in the right place at the right time to capture.
When time permits, I intend to hold drawings to create
for the winners whose names are drawn for each. To enter, your name and email address will be required. It will be added to a mailing list to receive updates about In-Vesica. In-Vesica will post the art work on this web site and in other publications.
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by Allison L. Williams Hill
"I bring you boundless joy."
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P.J. during a search...
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