Love and Creative Caregiving

Merging by Allison L. Williams Hill

I love Clem.  In body or out of body it does not matter.  He is the Love of my life...and beyond.

On Wednesday, March 20, 2012, Clem ate only one meal. It was afternoon, I think, maybe 2 or 3. I walked Clem into the bathroom.  The past month he ate only two meals a day because of prolonged sleeping.

He claimed he was seeing 

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Love in the Conversation

“Do you want to live?” I asked.
“No,” he replied in a whisper.  I did not believe the answer.  I was not certain he said it.
“Do you want to live?” I asked again.  I moved closer to him to make sure I heard him right.
“No,” he said in the same  small  whisper.
“Why?”  He looked down.  “You think I am having an affair.”  I said it.  I did not ask it.
“Yeah,” he whispered.
“How?!”  We had gone through this before.  He could never tell me how I achieved this.  He just said he thought so.
I sat on the side of the tub opposite him. “How?”  I asked again.  “You still feel this way?  Are you thinking I’ll put you away and reconnect with ----?”  Clem nodded his head.  I waited a few seconds.  “Because you think you are not the man I married?”  He nodded.  “You’re not.  I ask you to do something, you do it.  I clean you, feed you, dress you.  I am still here doing this, aren’t I?”  He nodded.  “I’ve been here over a year and anytime I could have placed you in a facility, right?”  He nodded.  “And I haven’t, Clem.  I’m still here doing all of this.  Clem, I take my vows seriously: ‘for richer, for poorer; in sickness and in health.’  I made my choice, Clem.  I asked Spirit if I should place you in a facility thinking you would be better off there.  They said ‘No.’  It also said I have the strength and ability for this.  You are my heart.  You are it for me.  If you go before me, you know after you cross the Bridge to create our home and come to meet me.  If I go before you, I know after I cross the Bridge to create our home and I come to meet you.  I am with you forever.”

Our Love is Forever

I thought about Jon Peniel’s teacher, Zain,  in his book The Lost Teachings of Atlantis who told him that he would be in the line of Angels when he made the transition.  I don’t know which is real or true.  If we do not make the transition together, we would be separated by others who come between us.  And perhaps, such  feelings have no place where we will ultimately end up.   I do know that our existence here, fraught with pain, anguish, and a particular kind of uncertainty, is illusion.  The brilliant glimmers of love expressed in many ways sustain and are real. 

I learned later, after Clem crossed over that he distrusted the man.  He was able to project to where he could see everything- everything we thought, felt, and experienced.  He was in a timeless state.   He saw that this man's heart was not true.

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